wax melts

Candles and melts are all around my home, no matter what time of year. A cosy Autumn evening with the delicious smell of gingerbread, a pamper night with relaxing lavender drifting round the bathroom or zingy citrus to brighten up a Summer’s day. They’re not just those little luxuries that fill my home with all kinds of delightfulness but candles and wax melts are a brilliant way of masking those other less pleasant smells that I’d rather not have wafting through the air, especially when you have an indoor cat!

I’d never heard of the brand Whiffy Wax until they contacted me to ask if I’d like to try out some of their melt pods. I’ll be honest, it was the brands fun name that caught my eye but when I looked into the company a little more I learned that they have been selling their products from their Facebook page for just over a year. Whiffy Wax now have an online store and you’ll also find them on Twitter.

Jodi very kindly sent out three packs of wax melts to try and they arrived a few days later.

Aloe Vera and Cucumber has a refreshing crisp fragrance with touch of citrus, imagine the smell of clean bedding right after you’ve changed the sheets and it makes you want to wrap yourself up in the duvet.

Country Clothesline reminds me of laundry gently blowing in the Spring breeze, surrounded by fresh flowers, I can just see myself sitting outside in the garden with my glass of wine right now. These pod melts have notes of pineapple, jasmine and lily which make them smell absolutely divine.

If you can’t quite decide on a fragrance the wax melts also come in double packs which contains different scents. The Scent booster Lavish and Scent booster Dream duo is probably my favourite of them all. Lavish has a delicious peachy smell with hints of vanilla and caramel, while Dreams has a warming lavender fragrance, perfect for those cosy nights in.

wax melts

Each pack costs £3.50 and contains 6 wax cubes which are so easy to use. Simply pop one onto a wax burner and light an unscented tealight below, before long the beautiful fragrance will fill your whole house but without being too over powering. They are such a handy size as you don’t need to cut them to shape like some of the larger ones I’ve used before. I already own a burner but Whiffy Wax also sell those as well.

On their website you’ll also be able to buy clamshell wax melts, carpet fresheners and room sprays, they literally have thought of everything when it comes to making your home or office smell incredible.

If you fancy getting your hands on anything from Whiffy Wax, I have a special discount code where you can save 20% off your purchase. Just type in rosie20 at the checkout on there website.

*Disclaimer: These products were sent for the purpose of a review, all photos and opinions are my own. I don’t earn anything from anyone using this discount code, I just thought you’d like to save some money on these fabulous products.

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chatty post and what I've been up to

My last two chatty posts went down really well and I personally love reading other peoples. I also find it’s a great way to look back on my blog this time next year to see all the wonderful things I got up to.

I’m counting down the days until Easter after finding out my half sister is coming over from Canada and staying for the Easter holidays. Can you guess how excited that makes me. Luckily my cousin, sister and I get on extremely well together, I’m sure we’ll all be doing some exciting stuff over the two weeks and taking loads of photos for our scrapbooks.

outfit of the day

chatty post with an outfit of the day

chatty post with an outfit of the day

If you’ve seen one snowy photo over the past few weeks, then you’ve probably seen a million. Unfortunately while most people were able to get out and enjoy making snowmen. have snow ball fights or generally have a moan about how cold it was, I happened to be stuck indoors for almost 5 days and could only look in wonder at this pretty white stuff through the window. The snow was just too heavy for my wheelchair to cope with, it would have got stuck within a few feet of my door. However all was not lost, I had an extremely productive few days and managed to write 4 blog post, yay, and get a load of admin out of the way. On the Saturday, the snow had cleared enough for Adrian to take me out for a coffee, we sat on “our” bench by the church where there happened to be just enough snow for me to get an outfit of the day photo and the all important photo of my feet. I was snuggled up warm in one of my favourite outfits including this beautiful faux fur collar I bought in the sale from Topshop and, apart from having so much, I think the fresh air did me the world of good.

Chatty Post and Pebble Art

A few weeks ago Adrian and I were out on one of our walks and stopped at our usual bench. Who’d have thought that we’d be sharing it with an Alien! He can spot a penny from a mile away, so when he walked off to pick something up from the other end of the bench I didn’t give it a thought. He came back with this pebble which has been painted to look like an alien. On the bottom it had the words Plymouth Pebble Art, it honestly put a big smile on my face considering the night before Adrian and I had both watched the film Paul. The idea behind these pebbles is that someone has visited Plymouth pebble Art, painted their own design on one of them and placed it somewhere in the country. You then take a photo and upload it to their Facebook page, you can then either keep it as a memory or place it somewhere else for others to enjoy, and they do the same thing. This isn’t sponsored, I just thought it would be a fun thing to share with you. Wonder where our alien has visited next?

chatty post and cuddles with my cat

Pepper is still going strong at the grand old age of 21 (roughly!), she’s super clingy at the moment and want’s to be near me all the time. If she wakes up and I’m in another room, she’ll start screeching really loudly. I don’t know if she’s feeling vulnerable, other than that Pepper is a healthy old lady. We adopted her 10 years ago from our neighbour, or rather Pepper adopted us. She used to come into our house while our neighbours were at work, then when they moved they asked if we wanted to keep Pepper. We of course said yes, she couldn’t get her little paws up on our our sofa quick enough and moved her little cat belongings in the very next day. She melts my heart every time I come home and her purring is one of the most relaxing sounds ever.

chatty post and an outfit of the day

How cute is this T-shirt which was designed by Jemma, she had a limited supply on her Etsy store and I was so happy when mine arrived in the post. I think it’s such a fun item to have in my wardrobe for Spring and Summer, the material is incredibly soft and it fits beautifully. I’ll be wearing mine with jeans and flats or a pair of jersey bottoms for slouchy days at home, although I think it;s way too lovely to be hidden away. I hope she designs some more pieces of clothing in the future, I’ll definitely be keeping and eye out for a hoody or sweatshirt!

Chatty post including a girls night in

charry post, what I've been up to

After having some bad news a few weeks back I try to treasure every moment I spend with my friends and family a lot more now. I think I always have, just every now and then something comes along as a gentle reminder that life’s too short. I don’t have a large circle of friends but I’m extremely close to those I do have. While I was snowed in my best friend arrived with some treats and we watched back to back episodes of Friends (again!)

Adrian and I finally got our new oven after our old one cooked it’s last ever meal, it’s not bad as we’d had that for 10 years and it belonged to Adrian’s mum when we first got married. This is the first one I’ve owned that hasn’t been second hand or a hand me down. Yes I was slightly excited when it arrived and the first evening we enjoyed a vegetable casserole followed by apple and blackberry pie, I must say it was divine.

chatty post with a monthly round up

I don’t often share a photo of me wearing glasses but I’ve been trying to get used to these new frames. I’d had my old pair for about 10 years and a week or so back they finally gave up and broke. It was the kind of day where everything went wrong all at once, the screen protector on my mobile cracked, the shower decided to stop working while I was in the middle of washing my hair and a whole host of other things. But hey, it’s all good now and I can look back and laugh about it. I’m sure everyone has days like those.

I’d like to say a huge, huge thank you for all the incredible support from everyone after I published a very personal and sensitive post. It was written in the style of a letter and had been in my drafts for well over a year. I’d never really had the courage to post it until now. Telling your friends and family is one thing, but putting it out there for the rest of the world to read is something quite different. I just hope if anyone who has gone through a similar thing and reads my story will know they are not alone and there will be help out there.

chatty post wearing my pink blanket scarf

I do love finding a bargain when I’m out shopping and if something doesn’t cost me a penny I love it even more.  I very rarely shop in M&Co but when I was given some money for my Birthday I went in store and bought a beautiful burgundy jacket with a faux fur collar. I have a loyalty card for M&Co and was excited when a £5 voucher arrived through my door at the beginning of the month. I totally fell in love with this pink blanket scarf, which was in the sale for exactly £5, it’s incredibly soft and snugly and goes with so many things I own already. My collection of hats is forever growing, well you probably noticed that. I absolutely love this grey and black fedora from Oliver Bonas. Keep an eye out on my Instagram stories as I’m sharing quite a lot of outfits on there too.

I’m really into Audio books at the minute, I find them so much easier to get through and can listen to them while I’m doing other things or just before I go to bed. Last month I read 100 Pieces Of Me by Lucy Dillon which I featured in my February Favourites post. I’m currently reading The Story Teller by Jodi Picoult, it’s got just about everything in it, love , war, murder, forgiveness, I’m only on chapter 3 and loving so far but I’ll let you know what I think when I get to the end.

Last, but by no means least, hurray for the return of The Walking Dead! I’ve watched every single episode, right from season one and I was seriously not ready for the emotional episode after the mid season break. Why, oh why, do I love Negan as the villain, someone please talk some sense into me. And if Daryl happened to roll up outside my house on his motorbike I’d definitely not be sending him back out into a zombie apocalypse.

How’s life treating you at the moment? What’s you favourite TV show or book you’ve enjoyed reading?

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February Favourites

Hope you’ve all had a good February? It seems ages since I wrote a Favourites post, probably because I got last months out really early and January is like the longest month ever. I’ve been trying out loads of new beauty products, I love spending an hour or two at my dressing table, playing around with makeup looks or styling my hair differently. I find it really therapeutic.

My February Favourites are mainly beauty items but there are a few random bits at the end. Let me know if you’ve tried any of the things I’ve loved this month.

February Favourites

Thanks to American English Seaberry Dry Oil  my hair has been frizz free and feels incredibly soft, it’s also given my hair a gorgeous shine. I’ve been using it as a heat protecting spray while using my straighteners or hair dryer, or on it’s own to make my hair look super sleek  This stuff is amazing and smells absolutely divine! It’s cruelty free and vegan too, so it’s suitable for everyone.

February Favourites

What can I say about the Tarte Rainforest Of The Sea Volume II other than it is stunning! There are four beautiful highlighting shades: Candlelight, Spotlight, Skylight and Daylight, the two lighter shades are just perfect to use as a highlighter on my skin tone. The darker two I’ve used on my eyes if I want to add a touch of sparkle. They are incredibly pigmented, so don’t go overboard like I did at first, and the powder is super soft. I’m so glad I took the risk buying it from the Tarte website as I didn’t pay any international shipping, and this is going to get a lot of use throughout the year.

The Tarte Cosmetics Shape Tape has to be my favourite concealer, ever. It has amazing cover and conceals my dark circles and any blemishes incredibly well, I love that it has a huge sponge applicator so it’s super easy to use with just one swipe. I honestly didn’t think I’d love it quite as much as I do because it’s quite a heavy formula, but it doesn’t crease or dry out my skin at all. It’s worth every single penny!

February Favourites

I’ve loved using the Touch In Sol Flawless Skin Top Coat which is perfect for a natural, flawless looking complexion. I’ll add a few drops and blend it in with my fingers, as it reacts better to the warmth of my skin and I’ll get a more natural, glowy finish. The great thing about the Skin Top Coat is you don’t need separate products, it’s a three in one base: BB Cream, foundation and powder. It’s a lightweight liquid which doesn’t clog up your skin. I think this is going to be the one to use during the summer months, plus you can build it up to get the coverage you want and it doesn’t look cakey or too heavy.

February Favourites

Anything that promises to instantly boost the skin and I’m at the checkout before you can say Pixi Beauty. I’ve absolutely loved using their Skintreats Rose Flash Balm as a primer before doing my makeup and twice a week I’ve applied a thicker layer which acts as a mask, then just gently wiping it off after about five minutes. It contains rose extract and rose flower water, which are incredibly gentle on my skin, I know some people are sensitive to both of these. The balm is oil free and glides on beautifully without leaving any greasy residue, making my skin feel ultra soft and hydrated. It’s a great multi-purpose product that’s the perfect compact size for popping in your overnight bag.

February Favourites

I’ve totally fallen in love with the Glossier Milky Jelly Cleanser. The bottle looks simple and clean, and has a easy to use pump, with a lockable cap. It’s one of those products that works on everything, and yes I do mean including stubborn eye makeup, it’s extremely gentle, so you can use it to take every last scrap of makeup off. It has a jelly like texture, which I found a bit strange at first, at the end of the day I’ve been massaging it into dry skin and it simply melts off any makeup, removing every bit of dirt and grime. It didn’t leave my skin feeling dry in the slightest. I’ll leave the link to my Glossier Milky Jelly Cleanser review if you want to find out more.

February Favourites

I couldn’t let February pass without mentioning Valentines’s Day. We stayed at home, ordered a take away, opened a bottle of Prosecco, and watched a film, just the two of us. Adrian very kindly bought me this adorable Unicorn mug from Vinegar Hill in Hitchin, which I absolutely love! Isn’t it just the cutest thing ever. It now sits on my shelf alongside my collection of other cute, pink mugs,

February Favourites

The book I’ve enjoyed reading is 100 Pieces Of Me by Lucy Dillon, it’s a bitter sweet story that made me want to sort my life out and enjoy every single day the best I can, as if it were my last. It made me think about who was important in my life and all the things around me, were they part of who I am now or was I just holding on to bad memories and things I didn’t need anymore. It made me think about everything and everyone I take for granted, and anything that gave me negative thoughts, when I could have been surrounding myself with people and belongings that filled my life with joy. I have to say, this book probably had a bigger impact on me than any of the non fiction self care books I’ve read.

What’s the one thing you’ve done during February that you’ve really enjoyed?  it can be anything at all.

 

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Random Acts Of Kindness

Does it have to be someones birthday or Christmas to show a simple act of kindness? Even the smallest thing can make a big difference to someone’s day. Think of all the lovely things that people have done have for you, that moment of joy which put a smile on your face.They will almost certainly work for other people too, some of these random acts of kindness may seem small and they are easy to forget when we’re rushing about, getting on with our own busy lives. The world would be a lot nicer place if we were kinder to each other and smiled a bit more, instead of having a face like thunder just because we’re in a bad mood. I include myself in there as I can throw the biggest strops going, just ask my husband. I’ve been making every effort to simply smile when I’m out and about, even to complete strangers in the queue or waiting room, because I know they will have gone away having a moment of joy during their day. Very often, they will smile back to, so the kindness is returned.

Simple Acts Of Kindness

Send a hand written letter – as well as receiving a letter, why not include a motivational card they can pin in their office to make them smile every day

Compliment someones work – if you’ve enjoyed what a person has written, give it a like, retweet it or leave a nice comment. A few words of encouragement can go a long way to making someones day.

Offer to make a cup of tea – on a break at work, why not offer to make your colleague their favourite hot drink, or make one for your mum who’s been busy at work all day.

Love an outfit, let that person know – doesn’t have to be a friend, it can be a complete stranger, believe me they will go away with a spring in their step if you tell someone their outfit looks good

Hold the door – sounds simple enough, but the amount of times people have gone through the door in front of me and just let the door slam shut

Recycle your old magazines – take them to a DR’s waiting room, this will bring a smile to more than one persons day

Help someone in a supermarket – maybe that person can’t reach the top shelf, offer to get a product down for them

Give up your seat to someone who may need it – maybe they are elderly, pregnant or disabled and can’t stand for very long

Remember the assistant who helped you – did they go that extra mile to assist you as a customer, let them or their manager know, we’re all too ready to make a complaint, but when was the last time you praised someone who works in your favourite store?

Acts Of Kindness

Listen – another simple act of kindness, but could mean so much to someone who needs to talk through their problems, the smile on their face afterwards will be one of relief and make their day seem a little brighter

Offer to do the shopping – OK, I don’t mean a full weekly stock up, but maybe a neighbour or family member can’t get out through illness or they’ve just had a baby and would really appreciate a pint of milk and loaf of bread. The secret bar of chocolate hidden at the bottom of their bag for them to find could be enjoyed even more.

Share your loyalty points – don’t have a loyalty card for the store your in and never likely to, maybe the person behind you in the queue has and those extra points will help them towards their next money off voucher

Send a thank you card – been given a lovely gift for a special occasion, send a little note instead of a text, it’s much more personal

Make a memory book – know someone who has lost a loved one, use a notebook or scrap book and add photos of that person, ask friends and family to write a few lines about them.

Offer to babysit – maybe the new parents haven’t had a night out since the little one came along, they will really appreciate some time alone together

Call your mum or best friend – for no other reason but to see how they are, honestly this will make their day

Bake a bit extra – make a few extra of your favourite cookies or brownies, take some round to a friend, neighbour or family member, believe me, they will thoroughly enjoy them

Remember to say Please and Thank you – no really, those little words can often get forgotten when we have a million and one things we need to do buzzing about in our heads or running late for an appointment

Don’t forget yourself – having a bad day, do what ever you do to recharge your batteries, spend five minutes reading your favourite book, start watching that series you’ve been meaning to for ages, lock yourself away in the bathroom for a long hot soak, Look in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are!

What random acts of kindness have you done that’s given someone a moment of happiness?

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Victim Or Survivor Of Sexual Abuse

One minute and twenty seconds. That’s all the time you gave me before slamming the phone down. I’d waited all those years to ask you just one question “Why?” I was feeling really strong that day, but it still took every ounce of courage to pick up that phone and dial your number.

Tuesday 4th July 2006 was supposed to be our day, a day for us to talk. Thinking about it now, you only came round to make sure I’d not told anyone, still trying to control me. You’d definitely not come to visit out of guilt. If only I’d realised that back then.

I’d not seen you both since the end of March that year, after I began having counselling, which had opened “Pandora’s Box” and brought back memories that I’d blocked out for so long.

So when you arrived on that Tuesday afternoon and he appeared behind you in the door way, I froze. May be you felt the need to bring him along as back up, in case I started asking awkward questions.

You both sat down and that’s when I started to panic. I had flash backs of those awful nights in your house, scenes that I couldn’t handle reliving.

I wanted to ask you both to leave but nothing came out of my mouth.

I was just frozen with those images in my head. I felt the fear all over again, I was physically shaking. I felt trapped and couldn’t bear hearing his voice or having his smell only a few feet away from me. I couldn’t even look at the both of you. The fear I felt was so strong that I had to send a text to a Adrian, asking him to come in straight away, luckily he was only working in the garden. All of a sudden there was another voice in the room. I had never been so glad to hear Adrian’s voice before. From that moment on I wasn’t trapped and alone with just you and that man, the pair of you trying to intimidate me.

Victim Or Survivor Of Sexual Abuse

All those times I wanted to say stop but was too scared. The times I just lay there with my face in the pillow, crying hoping it would be over. Breathing in his smell that was suffocating me. You were the adults, you knew it was wrong, yet still you carried on. Not just once, but over a long period of time, I should have spoken to someone back then, I stayed quiet through fear. The fear you put into me by telling me all sorts of things would happen to me if I told anyone what you were both doing.

That Tuesday in 2006 was the last time I ever saw you. I never did get any answers to all the questions I wanted to ask.  Up until now I have always blamed him for what happened, and thought of you as a victim too. Now I know that you were as much to blame, if not more. You should have been there to protect me, the one person who should have been there for me, but you let me down in every possible way. You not only allowed him to do what he did, but you were there in the room each time it happened.

I’m not sure what sick pleasures you both got out of what you did, but I do know it wasn’t my fault. I wasn’t to blame, I was just a child. You robbed me of an innocent childhood, one That should have been filled with love, support and encouragement, a time that I will never get back.

I do believe there is a name for people like you but it certainly isn’t Mother. You stopped having the right to be called that the day you willingly made the decision to do what you did. Mothers should protect their children, no matter what. You failed as a mother. Thank god you didn’t have any more children so they didn’t have to suffer the same way as I did.

I’ve seen you both now for what you really are. You made me feel dirty, an object you could both pick up and play with when it suited you, then stick me back in my room when you’d finished. All alone and feeling scared.

I wanted to tell someone but couldn’t, so I kept quiet. After all, a child puts their trust in their mother and believes what they tell them, don’t they? No wonder I was a frightened little girl.

 

HE told me he’d never been asked to do anything like that before and he only wanted to show me the facts of life.

He was asked!!

He was insinuating that YOU had asked him to do it, wasn’t he? Did you? Even if you hadn’t, you still willingly went along with it.

I’ve felt angry with you for so long and tried to block out what happened, to forget what you put me through. I hid your dirty secret, until many years later.

I was a grown woman in 2007 by the time I reported it to the police and I had to relive every single, tiny detail, and explain everything you and my stepfather did to me. They believed me and were able to gather enough evidence to take it to court, which I’m so thankful for considering it was a historical case. Unanimously, a jury of 12 found you both guilty of all charges and you were given a prison sentence. That, I believe, is what they call justice.

Nine months. That’s all you served for the crime you’d committed against your own daughter. In that time I hope you finally faced up to what you did and stopped convincing yourself that you hadn’t done anything wrong.

Even though some of my family supported you through the court case, believing you were the innocent party and that I should have kept my mouth shut, I know that deep down in my heart I did the right thing and that you got the punishment you deserved.

I hope you feel guilty and ashamed of what you did.  I hope it eats away at you every single day and every waking moment.

I hope you have to look away from every reminder of me because it makes YOU feel guilty, dirty and disgusted with yourself because of what you did to me and how you made me feel for so many years.

You’d betrayed me. You’d let me down. You made me feel as though I was the bad person.

I’m not scared or frightened of you anymore, I don’t feel the anger that I once felt towards you, in fact I don’t feel anything. I am not a child anymore, I’m not someone you can control. And I’m certainly not a victim. I’m a survivor.

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